Tag Archive | Sexuality

“Pulling Back the Shades” INSTEAD OF “50 Shades of Grey”


Pulling Back the Shades

About the Authors
Dannah Gresh
Dannah Gresh Author
Dannah Gresh is a sexuality educator and best-selling author of several faith-based books on the subject such as “And the Bride Wore White.” She has long been at the forefront of a movement to encourage healthy sexual choices and is often called upon to use social science and medical research to defend a conservative, biblical worldview on relationships and sexuality in news media like USA Today, CNN.com, FoxNews.com, Chicago Tribune and Women’s Wear Daily.
Juli Slattery
Juli Slattery Author
Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, an international non-profit designed to minister to women on topics around intimacy. Her books include Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?, Beyond the Masquerade, No More Headaches, and Finding the Hero In Your Husband. She is a regular blog contributor to Today’s Christian Woman magazine. Juli has appeared in USA Today, the NY Times, Fox News, and on radio networks throughout the world. Her heart is to help women find healing and fulfillment in their quest for true intimacy.

“Hot Buttons” Live Chat with Nicole O’Dell {5pm PST / 8pm EST} (Giving away $100.00 Visa Cash Card!) (A Litfuse Blog Tour)

Hot Buttons: Tackle Tough Issues Proactively with Tweens and Teens

Hot Buttons books Hot Buttons: Tackle Tough Issues Proactively with Tweens and Teens

From drugs to bullying, from internet activity to dating, Hot Button issues have saturated youth culture . . . and may have challenged your teen. This accessible, quick-reference series by Nicole O’Dell is a practical guide for discussing these Hot Buttons with your child, before the issues become a problem. The Hot Buttons series has been awarded the Focus on the Family Seal of Approval!

Each Hot Buttons book begins with a real look at the temptations and situations that teens are faced with, including current statistics and advice for parents to consider before launching into a discussion. The most unique and practical aspect of each Hot Button book is the strategic scenarios—short stories that allow parents to introduce certain challenges to their teens in a creative “what would you do?” question and answer format. Each Hot Button scenario is followed by a few choices from which the teen can choose to resolve the situation. Parents are then guided through a discussion to help prepare their tweens and teens for real-life Hot Buttons situations.

Dating, Internet, Sexuality and Drug Editions are available now. Bullying and Image Editions will release in 2013. 

Join Nicole on Facebook November 1, 2012, for practical tips, fun chat, and a chance to win a $100 Visa Cash Card.

Kregel Live Webcast event

Enter Link: http://www.facebook.com/events/328075057291601

Youth-culture expert, Nicole O’Dell, resides in Paxton, Illinois, with her husband and six children–the youngest of which are toddler triplets. She’s the founder of Choose NOW Ministries (www.choose-now.com), dedicated to battling peer pressure and guiding teens through tough issues while helping parents encourage good decisions, and host of Choose NOW Radio: Parent Talk and Teen Talk (www.choosenowradio.com), where “It’s all about choices!” On air, O’Dell covers peer pressure, dating, purity, drugs, alcohol, modesty, popularity, and anything else that comes up along the way. Nicole writes and speaks to preteens, teenagers, and parents about how to prepare for life’s tough choices.

She’s author of YA fiction, including the popular Scenarios for Girls interactive fiction, which offers readers alternate endings, allowing them to decide what the main character does, and the Diamond Estates Series based on her experiences as a resident at Teen Challenge as a teenager. Her non-fiction for teens includes Girl Talk, 2/1/12, which she wrote with her two daughters based on their popular advice column.

Nicole’s desire to bridge the gap between parents and teens is evident in her parenting non-fiction like the Hot Buttons, series aimed at helping parents handle tough issues with their tweens and teens before they pop up in real life. Watch for Hot Buttons books on subjects like dating, Internet activity, sexuality, prejudice, friendships, politics, and many more.

For more information on Nicole O’Dell or her books, or to schedule Nicole for a speaking event or interview, visit http://www.nicoleodell.com. Podcasts of Choose NOW Radio are available at http://www.chooseNOWradio.com.  Source.

Do you think the internet to be a safe place for your child to connect with their friends?  Let Hot Buttons Internet Edition help parents prepare their teens for online challenges they may face. Topics discussed include: internet activity, file sharing, social networking, and internet predators.

Do you know the current hot drugs, alcohol, inhalants and prescription drugs out there that are available to your children at the drop of a hat? Let Hot Buttons Drug Edition brave the scary world of substance abuse, equipping parents with facts, warning signs, and real-world scenarios on: alcohol; Marijuana and other drugs; inhalants; and prescription drugs.

Think dating today is just for sixteen-year-olds and up? Are your children dating without your knowledge?  Let Hot Buttons Dating Edition offer practical real-life situations that parents can read and discuss with their preteens. Topics include: physical activity, missionary dating, and violence/abuse in dating relationships.

How do you handle the discussion of sexuality with your young person?  Let Hot Buttons Sexuality Edition offer the facts about teen sexuality, backed by statistics; specifics for how to talk frankly about sex with your kids, discussion about the growth of homosexuality and bisexuality among teens; and compassionate advice for guiding your teen to reclaim purity.

Link to buy books: http://ow.ly/esojj

Landing page: http://litfusegroup.com/author/nodell

My Review:

Nicole O’Dell’s Hot Button Editions can help parents, even timid parents, to become prepared, watchful and proactive with their tweens and teens in the four following areas:

  • Internet use
  • Drug abuse
  • Dating guidelines
  • Sexuality and purity
  • (Bullying and Image Editions will release in 2013)

Nicole exudes confidence in her books to parents in helping them learn how to initiate conversations with their young people for their own personal safety, their ability to stand strong against peer pressure, and live a Godly life.  Scripture is generously used to combat the lies Satan puts in our children’s minds and to help parents teach and demonstrate Godly lifestyles.

Nicole answers the Why, When and How in each book as they speaks directly to the issues at hand, which are the prepared, watchful, and proactive stances listed above.  I found this information vital for parents to know, as well as to process with their tween/teen.

The section under identifying the issue goes into greater detail, giving parents a great resource tool to open discussions with their children and to counsel them in the ways of God. And we all know as parents how hard it can be to open up discussions on these difficult issues at times with our teens.

The third section includes protective procedures, the armor of God and strategic scenarios to work through with their young people, helping them to prepare beforehand to stand up to peer pressure, drug pushers, dating pressures, and learning how they can control their own sexuality. I particularly think the strategic scenarios are a great tool to help their son/daughter to think through scenarios before they are enticed.  Using the armor of God as parents and individually by the son/daughter will help them stand stronger.

Nicole O’Dell gives us a lot of great advice and information.  If you have young people at home, start early to teach them Godly truths for these issues.  Don’t leave it to the schools or church to do your parental duty.  After all, God gave them to you to raise and teach them to walk in His ways.  You CAN do it!

I believe every parent needs to get these Hot Button books.  Remember, they are teaching sex education as early as kindergarten.  Be proactive and reach your children for the Lord and His Godly ways before society and the media lead them down wrong and painful paths.  These issues are close to my heart, and I thank Nicole for writing these practical, wise books for parents.

Praying for your children is parenting at its best!  (Carrie, BSF leader)

These four books were provided free by Amy Lathrop of Litfuse Publicity Group in exchange for my honest opinion.  No monetary compensation was received.

Dannah Gresh Uses GOD’S INTENTION for Sexuality to Debunk Popular Myths in Today’s Culture

If you have children, you need to listen to these two day’s worth of tapes.

Focus on the Family

Part 1:
What have you taught your preteen or teen daughter about sexual purity or modesty?

Daily Broadcast 2-16-12: Popular author Dannah Gresh uses God’s intention for sexuality to debunk popular myths in today’s culture. (Part 1 of 2)

Click on Ffd 20120216 below.  NOTE:  If it clicks out and restarts, that’s ok.  It’ll come to the right program.



Part 2:
Do you agree with the way Dannah re-writes the “where’s the line” question?

Daily Broadcast 2-17-12: Popular author Dannah Gresh uses God’s intention for sexuality to debunk popular myths in today’s culture. (Part 2 of 2)

Click on Ffd 20120217 below.  NOTE:  If it clicks out and restarts, that’s ok.  It’ll come to the right program.


Source:  Focus on the Family on Facebook.

No monetary compensation was exchanged in posting this blog.

“Waiting Until Marriage” Resource Materials


Back on January 18, 2011, I wrote a blog about Sex Has a Price Tag Rally that several parents put on for teens and their parents.  I had wanted to suggest resource materials for parents to educate themselves in talking with their teens (earlier in some cases) about sex, but had lost my list of books.  God so graciously provided me with my list.   I have added more books/CDs and websites.  The goal is to give information to youth and adults to help them in making decisions that have life-long consequences.

  1. Sex, Love and Relationships:  Straight Talk from Pam Stenzel (DVD)
  2. Preparing for Adolescence by Dr. James Dobson
  3. The Secret of Loving by Josh McDowell (dealoz.com)
  4. Smart Girls Don’t and Boys Don’t Either by Kevin Leman (Amazon.com)
  5. Sex and the Single Person by Bob DeMoss (Amazon.com)
  6. Sex Has a Price Tag/Sex Still Has a Price Tag by Pam Stenzel (DVD)
  7. Reasonable Reasons to Wait by Aranza and Lamson (Amazon.com)
  8. Too Close Too Soon by Talley and Reed (dealoz.com)

From the following sources, you can find these and many other books to help you parent:

  1. What Your Son Isn’t Telling You by Ross and Shellenberg
  2. What Your Daughter Isn’t Telling You by Ross and Shellenberg
  3. Sex and the New You: Girl’s Edition by Rich Bimler
  4. Sex and the New You: Boy’s Edition by Rich Bimler
  5. Love, Sex, and God:  Girls Edition by Bill Ameiss and Jane Graver
  6. A Chicken’s Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids About Sex by Dr. Kevin Leman and Kathy Flores Bell
  7. Five Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter by Vicki Courtney
  8. How to Talk Confidently With Your Child About Sex by Lenore  Buth
  9. How to Talk to Your Kids About Sexuality by David Scherrer and Linda Klepacki
  10. Teaching Girls the Truth about Modesty and Purity I-III  CD
  11. A Message to Teens About Sex by Fran Sciacca  CD
  12. Tribe: A Warrior’s Battle by Michael Ross
  13. Love, Sex, & God: For Young Men Ages 15 and Up by Bill Ameiss, Jane Graver

A MINI OUTLINE OF Sex Has a Price Tag:

Sex: Created by God for inside the bonds of marriage

Chastity: Can say  “no”– you’re not an animal, something you practice for the rest of your life

Virginity: A gift you give to your marriage partner; Takes courage and integrity to say ‘no’ prior to marriage; Builds trust and faithfulness

Consequences of sex outside of marriage:

Physical: Unplanned pregnancy; life changes/choices; STDs

Emotional: bonds marital relationships, pre-marital relationships usually end within 3-4 weeks, breakups leave emotional and physical scars

Spiritual: sin–outside of marriage, hinders our relationship with God

Social Effects: family, friends, society, adoption, abortion–ends a life

Dating Standards: Delay until age 16, date in groups, decide your standards PRIOR to your dates, find a friend to hold you accountable

We asked the students about how their dating standards had been altered by watching Sex Has a Price Tag:

  1. I’m going to set standards with my parents tonight
  2. More aware of what role I have in dating–my responsibilities
  3. Don’t be pressured into something I don’t want
  4. The only safe sex is no sex before marriage
  5. Be more careful.  Date in groups
  6. I’m waiting until marriage to have sex
  7. Set standards now–not wait until a situation arises

Questions to ask your teen:

  • What qualities do you have to offer a person you might date?
  • What qualities do you want to see in a person you date?
  • What is the purpose of dating?
  • At what age do you feel you should be able to date?  Why?
  • What are some healthy dating activities that will keep you accountable?
  • How often do you feel you should date per week?
  • Are you responsible to be home by curfew?
  • Have you practiced saying no to drugs and/or sex?

Some dating ideas-be creative, but safe:

  1. Bike riding
  2. Go to the beach/lake
  3. Ice skate
  4. Miniature golf
  5. Water ski
  6. Bowling
  7. Take up photography
  8. Wash and wax your cars together
  9. Go snow tubing
  10. Volunteer together at a homeless shelter
  11. Play volleyball/tennis
  12. Horseback riding
  13. Attend a play
  14. Go out to dinner
  15. Share a pizza and talk
  16. Have a barbecue
  17. Go on a picnic in the park
  18. Go to the county/state fair
  19. Visit your city’s tourist attractions
  20. Roller blade together
  21. Go hiking or climbing
  22. Ride a ferry
  23. Exercise at the club together
  24. Go river tubing
  25. Do homework together
  26. Help paint the house of an older person
  27. Organize a baseball team
  28. Go boating
  29. Visit someone in the hospital
  30. Go to a sports event
  31. Help out at the Special Olympics
  32. Kidnap the other person for breakfast
  33. Visit a museum or art gallery
  34. Help clean someone’s yard
  35. Join a cross-county skiing club
  36. Snowboard or down-hill ski